Accepting With HEART - May You Be Well, Peaceful & Happy

Happy Chinese New Year

Accepting with HEART; May You Be Well, Peaceful & Happy

Dear my family members & friends,

New Year or Chinese New Year is a wonderful occasion when we welcome something new or hopes in our lives and at the same time we forget about the bad memories which have been passing us. Of course, it is a time for family reunions and scrumptious feasts.

Today, I wish everybody Happy Chinese RABBIT New Year. May you all be well, peaceful and happy in doing everything!

Anyway, it is also our time to refresh ourselves on our past. It is the right time for you and me to think what and how to improve ourselves. Look back on the past, what are those wrongful things you’ve done and what are things you should improve later. It is the best time for us to re-sharpen and re-strategize the life of you in future. Forget the past, looking the future but live in the present.

(Be the Karate Rabbit, always dare to make changes in life. Be the Rabbit, always dare to overcome the challenges in life. “Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.”)

By the way, I believe that Chinese New Year is the best time for us to stay with family members then friends come later. It is my time to seek for the forgiveness from my parents and sisters. May my parents, sisters & brother be well, peaceful & happy. May they get the wisdom & support too when they meet with any difficulty in life.

Recently, I watched the Great Day (天天好天) with my friends and I did cried but I didn’t cry out anyhow. I think it is a nice morale movie to share with you all. Sincere speaking, the parents nowadays are easily being forgotten by their children due to the “Reality Impact” whereby everyone needs to struggle to survive and to climb faster in his career. In addition, children are easily been forgotten/abandoned by the young daddy & mummy too due to the “Materialistic of Life”. Nowadays, people are struggling for his career and they might not have enough time to spend with his children and family.

(Your family will be prosperous, fortunate, peaceful & united when the word of Harmony is with you all)

Come back to the question. Why we need Peace & Care in family? Some people say that the PEACE in family will bring the fortune & prosperity to the family. Then, the CARE will bring the harmony to your family. From a harmonious family, you and I will feel happy everyday too. Remember, whatever it is; I cannot choose who to be my parents and who to be my siblings.Accepting with HEART; accepting the weakness of your family members. By giving love & care, he/she will grow up one day and they will understand more to each other. I believe that everybody needs love & care from the family too. Always be generosity to your parents & siblings as how you treating your partner.

So, I wish my friends could spend a quality time with your family members in this Rabbit Year. If you have extra time, do feel free to visit to your old friends too. Again, I wish you all stay happily & healthy all the time.

Dear you, I wish you can be discharged from hospital soon. Your parents and sister are waiting you home and to celebrate the festive season. Your friends are waiting to see you to respond on the post too; they wish you to get well soon. May you be well, peaceful & happy. May you get the wisdom and strength to overcome your difficulty and illness.

P/S: Just give a hug to daddy & mummy when you are home, give them a kiss or say "I Love You" to them. Please let them feel that you are actually caring and loving to them, vice versa.

Please do not live under someone's shadow!

Shadow? What is shadow all about? I will just think of light and object wwhen the shadow is mentioned; a shadow is produced when a light is being blocked by an object!

But, in life, we always talk about the shadow of someone, we always live under the shadow but we are not realized! “Do we not all spend the greater part of our lives under the shadow of an event that has not yet come to pass?”

(To live in shadow is not meant that you live under protection, in fact you are escaping from the reality. A shadow is a reference but it will never be your Savior. You could just temporary live without annoyance &pain, please wake up my dear!)

Sincerely, I write this based on my feeling and I would really share with you especially my juniors. It is good if we learn things from others but it is an unhealthy significant if you learn things under the shadow of someone you admired. I do admire few great men in the world, but I will never fall myself to live under his/her shadow. I know where should I learn from him/her and where should I be myself.

Everybody has his/her way of life, you have your own brain and you should define things based on your wisdom and experience. There are many right things & wrong things in the world; it is how you apply your wisdom to justify it. I could tell you it is right, but I am rather to see you to carry out the outcome by yourself; with your heart and your brain.

You cannot always live under my protection. You will never live under the protection of your parents since your dad & mom will leave you one day too. If you think it is the right thing and it is good for you own, then you should voice out and strike for it. I will never say it is a selfish behaviour if you choose the things you want for yourself. Many people feel regretful because they dare not to speak out things they want. Many people are caring and loving to their respectful persons/leaders and they will never say NO to them though they are wrong. Is it a good attitude or good sign, think about it?

(Everybody has his/her own shadow, you can actually create your own shadow rather following someone's shadow. Be yourself, go go do.)

What is life and what is shadow. A shadow is about an example for you to “copy” or to learn from a person but a life is the way how you choose and how you walk alone. You should have chosen your own life because you know what the best is for you yourself. Therefore, I really urge my dear friends/juniors to choose things you like. Just try, and take out your courage to say to me or the particular person whatever you have thought and whatever you have preferred too.

Of course, fear is the greatest self-enemy in oneself since we are worried to hurt someone we love or we respect the most. But, it is not the way you should follow actually because it will only hurt you much eventually. There are many ways in negotiation, we just need to compromise to each other and prove the logical sense to the person. If he/she still cannot accept, do or don’t give up is always dependant on your hands.

But, I will always take it as a gambling just like how I challenge myself in my life. You will never know the feeling on the top of Mount. Everest if you have ever been there yet!

MAY YOU BE WELL & HAPPY

(My Lord Buddha, you bring me calmness & wisdom)

I just back from the campus election discussion and now it already 1.11am. The night is still young for me but I actually feel sleepy.

I feel thankful to few of my friends that they would like to share me the news about her. Sincerely, I first thought that she was in critical condition and she was unconscious now. But, I felt relax and calm after listening one of my friends that she is now in conscious condition. Thanks my Lord Buddha.

As you rest and heal, know that you are thought of warmly and wished a quick recovery. It isn't always easy, but when you're not feeling well then hope it helps to know others are thinking of you and hoping that you'll be better very soon. Take good care of yourself.

I am not very sure what can I do now, but I just know that I can pray harder for you. I hope you could have a speedy recovery and you could breathe smoothly later. It will never be a “small case” if your lungs get fluid inside. I experienced the serious illness when I was small and I was admitted to hospital for quite long time when I was a baby.

( Here, I found my wisdom when I closed my eyes and calm my mind. Money was important in my life previously, but I know they are many things are more important than it. I used to pursuing for my power & authority, but I know I will die one day and leave both power & authority)

There is an Illness: Suffering

There is a Cause: Craving

There is a Health: Nibbana

There is a Curve: The Path

I just wish you are able to recover soon and you can relieve from your suffering & illness. I please Buddha to give you strength and to assist you to remove from the difficulty. As long as you feel better, I think it is more than enough.

Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship. We need a healthy body and heart to carry on our journey and to assist more people as we can. Money was very important to me, but I today think that my health and your health are more important than others. If there are triple gems in my belief, I wish I could give you my triple gems (little buddha of key chain, bookmark & charm) and you receive later too.

Lastly, I wish you have a speedy recovery and hope you can really focus in your recuperation. Remember, you are very important to many people and of course you are meant to me too.

May You Be Well and Happy, METTA

BERLIN ROME VIENNA

When We Lose One We Love

When we lose one we love, our bitterest tears are called forth by the memory of hours. “As I look back on all that's happened, growing up, growing together, changing you, changing me -- there were times when we dreamed together, when we laughed and cried together. As I look back on those days, I realize how much I truly miss you and how much I truly love you…

(You see, I looked like father-liking or mother-liking)

Last week, I got news from my sister that my dear father was admitted to hospital for his body check-up after he had faint inside toilet. The doctor said he might get heart-attack syndrome. I first stunned for a while because I didn’t know what to do. My mind started thinking of negative part, thinking of missing him later (touch wood). I recalled my memories with my daddy too, from baby to primary school, from secondary school to university; there are so many memories coming out in my mind. My dad has really changed me and influenced me too.

Then, I “curi-curi” balik to visit him last Saturday though I was in a programme (my father is more important than others). When I went back, he was shocked I was there already. My sisters curi-curi balik too that day, hehe. Sincerely, I know that baba is worried about his health problem too especially when he has many friends passed away due to health problems. Thanks my Lord Buddha, my father is alright now; may he has many more years to enjoy life here.

Now, I know how was the feeling when you really lose someone you love, you care and the person brought you up.

Recently, I am sorry to hear a bad news of my friend too. I heard that she is admitted after her lungs got water. She has transferred to ICU too. Sincerely, I really don’t know what can I do now and I could not do anything here. I just can try my best to pray for her, I please that Lord Buddha to give her strength & motivation. I please my Buddha to pray her get well soon from her health problem. You will be alright too.

You are so meant to me because you have helped me so much, you changed me so much and you really inspired me so much these years. Therefore, I will always pray for you until you get well later.

(Amitabha & May You Be Well and Happy)

Dear friends,

The past may be gone forever and whatever the future holds, our todays make the memories of tomorrow. So, my lifetime friend, it is with all my heart that I send you my love, hoping that you'll always carry my smile with you, for all we have meant to each other and for whatever the future may hold.”

The Pure Love, Love In Campus....

"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."

I just came back from KL after we had met with few country leaders at KL these two days. It was a great journey & meaningful discussion indeed. We learnt many things from the conversation then I and comrades have discussed many things in car like career, family, campus activities and more importantly was about relationship.

Of course, I believe most of my friends are dating or you were in relationship before but you might not have both experience before too! What is love actually? I think most people will say LOVE is about feeling or something could not be expressed but it can only be felt through heart?

In car, we discussed about Your Girl Friend. We have five persons in car and just two of us are in relationship and three of us are Single Status now. Now, I think most of us are worrying about future partner. Sincere speaking, it is good if you could get your boy/girl friend during campus life. The world is changing; the world is no longer as 80’s and the world are about materialistic world today. In campus, the couples are romanticism and they are so pure in many things because they don’t have many problems.

In campus, your relationships are romantic, naive, and unsophisticated. Your relationship with your partner is just like Prince & Princess; dating, cinema, hi tea, shopping and vacation all the time. This is why I prefer the love to be in campus rather than the real society. You are so pure and your mind is so unsophisticated when you are young, you are so believed and confident in your partner when you are young especially in university life.

But, we are worried and we are worrying about “Single Status” in campus since we are going to graduate soon. We are hoping to look for a suitable partner because we believe in Pure Relationship in campus life.

Today, the world is so materialistic and so competitive. When you are outside, the girls would ask about 5C which are condominium, credit card, cash, carat and career respectively. But, we could not blame the girls because they are getting more with the feeling of insecure since some of them are disappointed in marriage or relationship (divorce, affair or break-up). World is changing, men are getting hard to look for partner because we cannot achieve the criteria especially when we are about fresh graduate.

Dear friends, I am not writing it to stress you up. In fact, I am in the situation too and still looking for my partner. Sincerely, it is better for you to manage properly the relationship when you are in university life. Your love in university is so romantic and pure. When you have your boyfriend or girlfriend, please do just care and love him/her more, buy things for each other and keep calling or sms each other to show you’re caring. People need care and love, people need strength and courage to carry on the relationship especially one of you are in insecure status.

Therefore, please do never think of there is a better candidate waiting for you, please do not leave him/her just because a small challenge. Believe me, a small challenge is the best training process to bring you two closer and to bring you two to love each other much than before.

There is no regret in love relationship, just do tell the boy/girl if you have good feeling with him/her, just do tell him/her when you miss him/her, just do take out your courage if you still him/her. It is a simple way and it could bring you happiness too. Good Luck…

Sometimes soft words of love can melt the toughest heart, so it is good for you to talk more and be sincere to each other. Just say, I LOVE YOU to your partner and show your HEART to him/her. How about me? Of course I prefer to have my relationship when I am still in campus life. It is a philosophy of mine; Coffee is about bitterness and sweetness, I believe love is about the sweetness after bitterness. If I can choose, I would like to hope that my partner could walk with me from the tough time to happy time. Again, I am just pure, naïve and unsophisticated in relationship.

Love me in the Springtime, when all is green and new,
Love me in the Summer, when the sky is oh so blue,
Love me in the Autumn, when the leaves are turning brown,
Love me in the Winter, when the snow is falling down.

Love me when I'm happy, and even when I'm sad,
Love me when I'm good, or when I'm oh so bad,
Love me when I'm pretty, or if my face is plain,
Love me when I'm feeling good, or when I'm feeling pain.

Love me always darlin', in the rain or shining sun,
Love me always darlin', after all is said and done,
Love me always darlin', until all our life is through,
Love me always darlin', for I'll be lovin' you!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aJxrX42WcjQ (You Raise Me Up)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eho6m_H1q2c (I Will Always Love You)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-uIQp9Dqcrw (To Where You Are)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eho6m_H1q2c (You Are Still You)

Time is free, but it's priceless. This is how I experienced my days these years...

(This is my family, baba, mama & siblings and here is where I was a baby, a cute cute fat boy)

“Time is free, but it's priceless. You can't own it, but you can use it. You can't keep it, but you can spend it. Once you've lost it you can never get it back.”

(This is me where I was in Secondary School, and the down one is when I became the Student Representative of UTM. My life is just began)

I now feel very relax in doing my final year stuffs, everything in final year is seemed like simple & easy. I let go many of my dreams, but I keep the only dream in my heart which is to stay happily and to love & concern more people surrounding me.

“When dreaming, I'm guided through another world, time and time again. At sunrise I fight to stay asleep because I don't want to leave the comfort of this place, and it is because there's a hunger, a longing to escape, from the life I live when I'm awake.” I am now almost graduating and I just left another half a year in my university life, the best ever life I have gone through in my life span.

Yesterday, I walked to my classroom; it is my first experience after many semesters. Last time, I walked to classroom but I stopped walking since last two years after I got my motorbike (CY 2763). I thanked Gary for accompanying me to walk to classroom; the wind blew on my face and it was cold & relaxing. The wind of the day was seemed like the welcoming of Chinese New Year, Gong Xi Fatt Cai.

(Up: we are crazy four and I was with Mr. Sarong that day. Down: This is my favourite asset which is motorbike and my best ever Brother Gary)

Then, I recalled back the life & experience I had in UTM these years. I noticed, I felt & I knew I had changed so much. I changed from a Kampung Boy to a City Boy whereby I changed both internally & externally. From Biro Perpaduan to Majlis Perwakilan Pelajar, and from Beijing Delegation to London-Paris Delegation and recently South Korea Delegation; I have really seen my improvement & weaknesses here.

I become smarter, but I am worried that I will become an irresponsible leader, son, husband (father) one day if I keep moving, keep striving for my quality life and pursuing for materialistic life style. Therefore, I recalled my life when I was young. I was pure when I was in secondary school, then I remembered how I improved my English in SABS (Sek. Men. Keb. Abu Bakar). Again, I recalled my life when I was young and then I make a comparison of my life today.

(Good man, Beijing Delegation, London-Paris Delegation, & South Korea Delegation, a wonderful memory here)

Yes, I did change, I really changed. I changed in good aspects and bad aspects too. So, I meditated awhile and my heart told me :“Dear Woeidar, you are good today but you can do better if you choose to have a correct & positive attitude in your life.” Then I opened my eyes and ask me myself :“what is my main purpose in my life, wealth, money, car, condominium or happiness”.

Happiness, yes you are. Happiness is the main purpose I should seek for. I admitted that I had simply ignored it while I was striving for my life these years. Therefore and today I chose to seek for my happiness, the happiness from my pure heart.

Today, I have prepared a good meal for my best brothers in UTM who are Brother Gary and Brother HoHo. We enjoyed the meal and we chit chat many things too. Things have changed, but our friendship is still “perfect”. Sincerely, we seldom being stingy to each other and we don’t like AA Style. We normally pay for other’s meal when we have our meals outsides. Of course, I always pay for the coffee time, haha. This is our pure friendship, I like it the most.

Now, I know, there are many people we can try to give hands and try to help them in many ways. Your daddy, mummy, siblings, relatives, “brothers & sisters” and friends, are actually waiting for your concern and love.

(I like cooking, especially I like to cook for my best brothers in campus. This was where I prepared the ingredients)

Here, I would say that I love everybody that I knew. I wish of all you have a healthy, prosperous and blessed year indeed. May You All Be Well & Happy,

(This is where I cheered for my "Halal Beer", Starbucks or Old Town, but I like Coffee Bean the most)

Things raise & fall back just like sunrise sunset, everything is seemed like moving all the time and they are changing all the time too. When you are with panic, just take a long breath and then try to look through the situation again, you will see there are many ways of solution in life. Many of us feel down when we meet the crisis, but if you use your wisdom, you will solve things easily.

Cheers & Regards,

Metta.

Woeidar CHAI…

感恩，缘起缘落，我与他的缘分！我应此变得比较理性及感性！

人生如戏，戏如人生！世间上没有一样东西是永恒的，因为每一样东西都一直一直地在转变，转变！

(my group mates at the Dhamma Camp,"Shaking" Jing Yi,"Chess" Qi Yan, SKII Zhi Xin, "KoNi" Qi Quan,"Sleeping" You Xian and Me)

就因为缘分，我的人生转变了。以前，我并不知道什么是宗教的定义更不知道什么宗教最值得去皈依；以前，我也很抗拒宗教的信仰，因为我不知道什么是宗教的力量（虽然我认为自己是一个佛教徒，但我却不知道什么是佛法）！也是因为缘分，我选择了去参加了佛学营，一个六天五夜的佛学营。天呀，我为什么会参加这么长的佛学营呢？你信吗？难道我真的疯了？还是我真的累了？

(Me and Buddha, doing meditation & the Samurai Chai here, cute cute)

其实我并不是疯了，这是因为缘；因为缘分，我学会了很多东西，我也更认识佛了，感恩！说真的，我曾经想给自己一个借口以便说我不便出席这一次的佛学营。这是因为我害怕，我害怕我自己会变成一个很宗教化的伟达。但，今天我却变成一个比较理性及感性的蔡伟达！谢谢工大佛学营所有的参与人士及师父们！

以前，我的确是一个很理性的一位理想主义者，我常常认为只要我是大公无私，认真对待每一件事以，那么我深信什么东西都能被我的判断力解决。我错了！我真的忏悔了！原来，我也应该把我感性的内心发挥出来，我也应该善用我内心的感性去对待一些问题。这样，我对于事件的掌握会更好，我会处理得更恰当！

(Master Xian Li and Me)

除此以外，我也感觉到被“带领”的感觉。这几年，我一直一直地带领他人，每一次的活动都是身兼重职。所以，这样也建立了我的性格－稳，急&直。也是因为这样，我变得更坚强，常常自己处理一切的问题，少接受他人的帮助。但，我在营中的确过得很开心，因为我不需要去理会一些领导层的问题，也不需承担一些重责。吃喝玩乐，就是我的责任！上上佛课，讨论佛法，太棒了。原来，没责任在身的感觉是那么棒的！

虽然我对佛法的认识不多，但我却蛮专心上课，也常常给与参与，所以获益不浅。我也认识到什么是五乘共法，三宝及因果。三宝，佛，法，僧，我喜欢。但我却有三哭（三次在营中落泪）。

第一泪：我为我以前的一些做法感到忏悔，我感到内疚因为我错了，我应该站在他的立场想。之前，我还以为我没错，但我却是错了，我的想法太错了。我落泪，因为我想对他说一声对不起！对不起！

第二泪：我对不起我的父母亲！我感到对不起爸妈，因为我觉得我不够孝顺。以前，我只认为努力读书工作然后赚钱给他们，这就是孝顺。原来，他们要的并不是这样，他们更需要我的是一通电话，一个问候，一个“我爱爸妈”的问候！

第三泪：我压抑自己的慈悲心。我不知道为什么我总是尝试压抑我对一些事及众生的同情心。我明明对于一些事件感到痛心，但我却常常压抑我对于他们的同情心。社会的现实，生活的压力使我变成这样；久而久之，我也把我的慈悲心给封锁了！原来，我是可以做到更好，我可以给与大家更多的关心，关怀及帮助！我也更应该接受他人的帮助！

(One Dhamma,One Family,One UTM, Metta)

在营中，我最喜欢了解的是“Nirvana @ 解脱”，因为我深信解脱的存在。虽然我还没到那个层次的经验，但我知道它是一个世间的正见。此外，我也学会了静坐，太棒了！近几个月来，我总是失眠，但我在营中却睡得很熟。我相信不少营员也得承受我的鼻鼾声，对不起！

今天，我是一个佛教徒，我更相信三宝的力量（只等待一个正式仪式皈依三宝）！感谢佛法，感谢你给与我的力量，因为佛法，我感到充满正能量！今天，我也有了人生的另一个转折点，一个更具备理想及感性的人生观！法喜充满&感恩！

Metta