成功背后的男人就会有一位“体谅”的女人！

成功背后的男人就会有一位“体谅”的女人！

这句话，我真的被一位Datin给感动了。从此，我更加明白女人的心，明白女人要的是什么！

(I take the opportunity to have a photo session with Datin and his daughters and son)

家，在某种意义上说或许真是人类的宿命，因为无论什么样的人都需要一个家，而很多人终生辛勤工作的目的也是为了让家更好。家到底有怎样的魔力，能让人如此为之孜孜不倦的付出？不管你是女主人还是男主人，你我都会默默地为这头家付出！

今天，我看见了YB及Datin的另一面，一个温馨的家。原来，政治家背后的那位太太是那么谦虚，明白事理的一位贤妻良母！谢谢Datin的时间，您让我看到了我以后要走的日子！就因为这样的机缘，我从中获益不浅，更明白我对于我要在政治发展的那一套哲学。

当天，我就大的喜悦是我问了这一道问题：“请问Datin对自己的丈夫身为一个政治家及副部长有什么看法？”

Datin答说：“女人始终是女人，女人总是希望自己的丈夫有足够的时间陪伴自己及家人。”Datin 还补答说：“我感到庆幸的是我嫁得到一位顾家而忙碌的领导人（丈夫）。”

(A good politician and a good father and Husband too)

我也知道Datin给于我的一些提示，在于从政及不从政的一个选择！如果选择了从政，那么我就得找到一个人明白事理及很体谅的一位太太。除此以外，Datin还说我很稳重，一个很像结婚及有孩子的一位大学生（她说我像30岁的男生，哈哈）。对于Datin的评语，我感到很开心因为我喜欢别人称赞我成熟稳重，haha。当天，我也于Datin分享了我生活的一些故事，家人，结婚观念及事业发展。

所这两个小时中的谈话，我明白了很多东西。我更明白了我以前的一些错误的想法及看法，原来女生们最需要的东西并不是物质上的享受而是自己生边男人的关心及时间！不论你对她多么的好，多么的忠诚，她要的东西就是你在她生边的时间，在她生边听听她发牢骚！

其实，家也很简单，它就是一个遮风避雨的屋顶，一顿热气腾腾的晚餐，一句温暖而体贴的问候，而这些永远都是无法用物质换来的，即便你坐拥数亿财富。无论外面的世界多么动乱，家是一汪平静的清泉；无论外面多么复杂，回到家可以在爱人眼中看到真实的自己；无论时世多么艰难，回家可以从孩子的依偎中，体验到生命的珍贵……

今天之后，我也明白了我以后要走的日子。我虽然希望从政，但我知道我最爱的是我身边的女人，我自己的家庭！如果有一天，将来的她要求我不从政，我知道我的答案很肯定的是：“是，我会以你及孩子们为主要的考量！”

谢谢Datin及YB，你们真的让我看到了我人生的另一幕，我看到了我在于从事政治及家庭的择选！

P/s: I am sorry because I write and post this article without getting YB & Datin’s permission.

一通电话

〈 一通电话 〉

其实，我真的很想在这个时刻，鼓起勇气，然后拨一通电话给你!

但我却没这样做，因为我不想制造任何不便给你，我更不想让你感到厌倦。

每当，我鼓起心中的勇气时，但我却按不下手那几

个号码，因为我不想常常烦到你！

(There is only a total of 10 digits number, but I failed to press it eventually)

虽然，我真的很想与你分享心中的那一刻喜悦，心中的每一个点点滴滴，但我却没有勇气。

与其说我没有勇气，不如说我真的害怕了，我的确害怕了一切！

我但愿我们之间还有一丝的联系，我也不敢有更进一步的发展，因为我输不起了。

就连想一想，我也会害怕。

也许，我真的需要等到毕业，看看到时我身何去处，然后我自然会有心中的那一股勇气！就如梁静如的“爱需要”《勇气》

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVY5OX6jMKA&feature=related

也许，我再也没有勇气了，因为我也许我真的害怕了，因为我不想再有任何的失望及打击！但愿，在我这么脆弱的时刻里，我能看见未来的她申处一对温柔的手，满满地牵引我走出这一个茫茫又黑黑的一片旅程里！

我答应自己，我会好好地相伴你，照顾你，疼你及保护你！最重要的是我会好好地爱你!

I decided to write this article and telling people that I am ready to quit as the Spiritual Leader, I quit as Spiritual Leader.

Running from grassroots, climbing to the management team and becoming the top spiritual leader – it would be the toughest journey I have been through these years.

From the 1st day, I decided to participate the campus activity or campus election; I know I was acquired to face with all challenges and obstacles from many sides of people, group and others. But, I will never choose to withdraw from the team unless I could achieve the goal and I could bring up the team.

Today and tonight, I decided to write this article and telling people that I am ready to quit as the Spiritual Leader. I have seen the growth of the team these years and I believe that they can go further without the support from me one day.

If you ask me:” Are You Willing To Let Go?”

Then I will answer:” Yes, I do. The world will not stop moving with your absence. I could just only accompany them until here, no further more. They must try their own way and give their best effort to continue serving the team and bringing up the team no matter how.” It is great when you are really committed into the team, by giving 100% to guide the team to achieve another level of achievement. It is GREAT.

Through grassroots, runner, delivery man, leader, and so many position I have been doing these years. Sometimes, I don’t really understand why I could be holding with so many respective positions just like Transformer. I always ready to transform myself into every position according with the situation.During delivering foods, I always try to bargain with the people. Even though it is just 5cents, 10 cents or 20 cents, I will still ask the Tauke to give me some discount. I will never feel embarrassing by asking Tauke to give me the best price. Being a Delivery Man, I always try my best to speed up my Little Motor to make sure the foods are ready to serve to the people within shortest time.

From a Director of Programme, Treasurer of Programme, Secretary of Programme and to be a Unit Supporter, I understand all the roles of programme. That is why I know where is the best place to buy stationeries, to buy tools, to make clothes, to by foods, to type letters, to do minutes, to propose budget and etc. These years, I really have been running through all the process.

Sincere speaking, I never feel tired of doing these things. But, I know I must stop doing these things in very soon since I need to transform myself to another higher level of life-long learning which is Real World (Big Society or Community). The university life is great, but I somehow need to shift my platform eventually.

Anyhow, I just wish all the best to the upcoming leaders and team players. Remember, you need to be responsible to the team, society, community and others. If you think you want to be thankful to me upon my helps & supports, then I think you are advised to help more people and serve the needed persons. As I always mention, Give & Take is the best principle to keep in mind.

Of course, I just want to see more people are being helped by you all one day. If you could help more people, it means that you have returned everything to me!

P/S: Just be whoever you like, be yourself. I am great but you are greater than me. If you think you need my advice one day, just do make a call to me or give me a message and I will try my best to help you. TQVM

Regards,

Woeidar CHAI…

也许你认为你你很了解我，但你却不知道..........

说真的，有时候我们真的很难完完全全地去了解一个人的心情及感受！不管你有多么的神奇，你此终不能完完全全地掌控对方的一切动态。

其实，我真的是一个很喜欢默默地付出任何代价的一位男生。虽然我知道我常常帮助他人，但我从不盼望他对于我的回报。我只但愿他可以把这些回报投报在其他人的身上，给一些更需要帮助的人！

一直以来，我只会埋头苦干，一直地向前冲，冲呀冲呀！只要我认为是对的事件，我都会朝那个目标向前。无论你如何看待我，误会我，我只会说声对不起。对不起，因为我的做法让你感到难堪！

也许，也许你心中所想的东西误解了我的做法，但我只会默默地吃下这个“死猫”。我是一个不善于表达我内心最深处的一个小男生，因为我只希望你可以看得透我心 中对于你的那股关心，热忱及爱心！不论你如何误会我，误解我，但我从不会做出任何解释及反击，我只会接受任何的评语。我接受，不是因为我承认你对我的看法 或想法，这只是因为我不想为我的做法给于任何的反击。只要你相信我对你是真心真挚的，那么你就相信我所为你所做的一切吧！谢谢！

在我心中深处的那一个我，是一个很沉淀的我，更是一个很内捻的我。我外表看起来很吵闹，很善于表达。但，我是最不厉害向我爱，疼及关怀的人表达我心中的那一 个我。我只会选择默默地关怀对方，我更希望对方会有他的那一颗“明白之心”去了解我心中的那一股热忱，对于任何人及事物的热忱！

好吧，就让你来看透我的心，读我的心，明白我的心吧！总有一天，你会觉得我的心是一个很单纯的心！

记得，我关心你，我爱戴你，但我很少对你说我的心情。尤其是我疼爱的人，我只会默默地保护你，关心你，为你祈祷保平安！

伟达上

My Words for the Campaign Team 2011

There are always Chinese saying: “知彼知己，百战不殆”& “攻城为下，攻心为上”& “破釜沉舟”.

This is the best idioms for us to learn to win the match especially the real war is going to start. It will never be an easy task for contesting the Majlis Perwakilan Mahasiswa and it will never be a Sure Win for coming campus election. Again, you will win the match if you really plan and prepare the best in your strategies & scheduling.

Dear All Comrades,

Please try to think at this very critical minute, what are things you still have time to improve and what are things you must change now to enhance the winning percentages. Of course, why don’t you try to maximize the resources you have especially you have the Campaign Management Team with you.

The campaigning days are just about 4 days and your life is about 80 years. It will only be a very short period in your life for the upcoming days but you could probably make it a Fantastic & Meaningful Days for you if you come back with the winning.

But, the winning needs you to sacrifice few things here which are Time & Time & Time. The TIME is the only element for you to make a victory. The TIME is used to think the best strategy and best campaigning method for every single Campaign Manager and Candidate. Time is for you to win your Opponent.

Remember, we people make mistakes in life but we learn things through mistakes. We have many experienced leaders in the Campaign Team now, so it is better for you all to always seek help from these people. Please do not give yourself any excuse that you are busy with something else, it is because we are busy too at the same time.

If and only if, if you really WANT to make victory in the coming campus election then you and your gang must change the ATTTIUTDE now. You need to train yourself to think, to plan, to strategize and to ACT now for anything you are on your progress. Again, we are ready to consult you all the time and our phone is ready for you to make calls.

“Strategy without tactics is the slowest route to victory. Tactics without strategy is the noise before defeat." You and your team need always seat down and look for the updated situation during campaigning days. Update the latest situation and re-plan for the next.

You're not obligated to win. You're obligated to keep trying to do the best you can every day.You can only go for the one way when you decided to go for the contest, no way for you to withdraw, but a WINNING is the best way for you to look for.

Dear Friends,

Whatever it is, you and your gangs must accelerate the work speed in this critical second to enhance the winning possibility. Day by day, there is only WINNING and LOSING in the match. But, a winning doesn’t mean you are winning all the time and vice versa. Anyhow, the feeling of winning of the match in the campus election is undescribed unless YOU ACHIVE IT!

Good Luck.

Woeidar CHAI

BERLIN ROME VIENNA

20102011

“破釜沉舟” - http://baike.baidu.com/view/26486.htm

“攻城为下，攻心为上” - http://zhidao.baidu.com/question/8244700

The Meaningful Celebration of My Rabbit Chinese New Year

The Meaningful Celebration of My Rabbit Chinese New Year

Time passing by, the holiday is just over and I came back to school already. Sincerely, I really enjoyed the festive season of CNY with my family, relatives, friends and other last few days.

To me, I really treated this is my important CNY celebration because I always remind myself that I will be in overseas today of the year of next. Therefore, I really travelled a lot this time to pay my visiting to many people that I think he/she is important in my life.

(Left : Me, Gary & Meis. Thanks Gary for helping me all the time and Meis for guiding me all the time when I am down. Right : Special 3D 12 Animals in Lunar Calendar)

Before the CNY, I went to Gary’s house and stayed a night there. Then, I have my tea time with Meis & Gary that day. We really enjoyed the Great Day (天天好天) especially I first saw Meis crying in the cinema, haha. Anyway, it was a good movie to share with especially it touched a lot it family matters.

(Me and the primary school gangs)

During the days in KL before CNY, I really shopped a lot at Pavilion and Mid Valley and spent money in buying clothes. This year, I bought few branded clothes for me since I wanted to myself nicer. Being alone/single, the best way is to treat you yourself nicer. This is wherethe good news for being single. Somehow, I prefer “Double” actually so that I could have ones with me and take care of me all the time, hehe…

(Left : Baba, Mama send me back to UTM, Muackss. Right : Brother Long & Baba burning the “Money Paper” for my Grandfather)

The 1^st day of CNY, I went to Mentakab Buddhist Society to perform my prayer for Buddha and wish all well beings go for my parents, friends, you and livings. Then, I started having vegetarian for whole day accompanying with my mom. Of course, I visited to my primary friends’ houses too and we talked many funny things during Standard 6. It was really a funny + excited experience in Primary School. But, we are now getting old and old.

(Me and YB Datuk Chuah, paying a CNY visit to his home)

Then, I almost spent whole day of 2^nd Day of CNY at home to play Mahjung with family. But, I did pay a visit to YaYa as usual in the morning. Staying few minutes at her home and talking with his parents too. She is best female partner in Mentakab, I guess. Anyhow, I think the most tiring day for me during CNY is 3^rd Day whereby I travelled more than 500KM to pay my New Year visit to Brother Gary & Brother Ho. I brought GrandChild Shu Chi along that day and again, we almost had the accident during fast-drive on highway. Thanks God, we were safe after pressing the emergency break, haha…

(The travelling to Seremban, Gary, Shu Chi, Me & Ah Hohoho....)

(My 大姑is on left & Grandmom on right photo)

BTW, I did make my visiting to my 大姑&外婆 at Melaka & Batu Pahat respectively. The journey was tiring but I think it is worth when I see they all are healthy. I felt I am old when I see my cousin’s children have grown up and one of them is studying at uni now. My goodness, I have passed through 2 Rounds in Lunar Calendar which means I am already 24.

Sincerely, the reason why I traveled a lot is because I wanted to have my quality gathering or visiting to my important persons in my life regardless of friendship or relatives. I am not sure where I will be the day of 2012 later. But I know, I will always try my best to stay back in Malaysia. To me, the best for making good relationship is through visiting and concerning. No matter how far you are, I guess we must have time to meet up somewhere if we really care or love about the person.

(Here I posted the card for UTM comrades and had good meal with my Mentakab Brothers)

Dear friends, it is not because the distance or other issues in making an estrangement in life among you and friends. In fact, it was because your determination of heart in making an estrangement with friends @ relatives. If you have heart in making closer relationship with someone, your heart will always give you best reason & support to do so.

Only with your hearty commitment, you will only make many friends and keep the best relationship with someones you love & care regardless of how far you are one day. That was the main reason why I traveled to many places though I never drive so long distance this CNY. But because of you are my important persons, I will do such favor for you.

May All Well Beings Go For My Important Persons In Life.